You need to take some simple steps to "prepare the surface" to talk about obligations. By doing this, you will see that your partner will be more receptive to what you say, or perhaps even himself will lead the conversation on this subject. Continued to give him moral encouragement It is important that at this stage the man continued to feel with you the winner. The relationship is very easy to slip into the habit to seek out each other's faults or blame in the details of everyday life. You should not do that. Resist the temptation to stop encouraging him. If you want to install a man long deep relationship based on love and commitment to each other, you have to continue to find it merits and you should continue to give him know that you appreciate the benefits that it brings to you. You should continue to marvel at the fact that he loves, even if it is some kind of nonsense. If a man will feel close to you loser, of course, that he does not want to commit themselves, and will resist any conversation on this subject. If he feels you as the winner and the source of wealth, he has all the reasons for wanting to share life with you. This will help your conversation to go much more smoothly.